Isn't it strange how we pretend the most around the ones we love? Does that sound weird to you? Just think.. haven't we said white lies to keep up our image to our loved ones? It could be out of love, fear or respect...
Teenagers lie about where they are going and who they are going out with, a man in love lies about his activities to his girl, a wife covers up in front of her husband, parents lie to children and sometimes even friends lie to friends. This happens partly because the ones lying know that they would get into trouble if they own up to it or because they know whatever they are doing in wrong but they are just not willing to accept it..
It's ironic because the ones close to us are supposed to love us unconditionally and accept us for who we are and not who we portray ourselves to be. Isn't that what real affection is? Relationships are built on faith and a modified version of the truth. This modified truth keeps the relationship rosy and happy. As long as the cat isn't let out of the bag, things are smooth. Many of us are scared that once we show our true selves, we would be judged and our relationship will get spoiled. The question to ask ourselves is whether it is okay to keep lying to our loved ones or steel up the spine and own up. After all, if somebody loves us, it should be because they really us and not a facade created out of insecurity.
Our loved ones always have our best interests at heart though it may not really seem that way at times. But yeah, it is the truth. They may not always see eye to eye with us but they want us to grow as a person and not let ourselves get caught up in mundane things that seem all huge right now. Either accept what they are saying or start being open. Double standards isn't a great way to maintain relationship, be it friendship or within the family.
If there is an utter need to hide your true actions, then there must be something really bad in what you are doing.. Reconsider it, analyse it from every angle till you get a satisfactory answer. Love freely but more importantly love the truth. Illusions don't last long...
Teenagers lie about where they are going and who they are going out with, a man in love lies about his activities to his girl, a wife covers up in front of her husband, parents lie to children and sometimes even friends lie to friends. This happens partly because the ones lying know that they would get into trouble if they own up to it or because they know whatever they are doing in wrong but they are just not willing to accept it..
It's ironic because the ones close to us are supposed to love us unconditionally and accept us for who we are and not who we portray ourselves to be. Isn't that what real affection is? Relationships are built on faith and a modified version of the truth. This modified truth keeps the relationship rosy and happy. As long as the cat isn't let out of the bag, things are smooth. Many of us are scared that once we show our true selves, we would be judged and our relationship will get spoiled. The question to ask ourselves is whether it is okay to keep lying to our loved ones or steel up the spine and own up. After all, if somebody loves us, it should be because they really us and not a facade created out of insecurity.
Our loved ones always have our best interests at heart though it may not really seem that way at times. But yeah, it is the truth. They may not always see eye to eye with us but they want us to grow as a person and not let ourselves get caught up in mundane things that seem all huge right now. Either accept what they are saying or start being open. Double standards isn't a great way to maintain relationship, be it friendship or within the family.
If there is an utter need to hide your true actions, then there must be something really bad in what you are doing.. Reconsider it, analyse it from every angle till you get a satisfactory answer. Love freely but more importantly love the truth. Illusions don't last long...
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